Plans were to write a blog on New Years eve and then another blog on New Years day. Instead, my mom cooked a homemade dinner of spaghetti, meatloaf, pinto beans, & cornbread that made me say "Damnitall!!" to everything else. LOL. So I pushed back a subject that I wanted to speak about, especially in time for the New Years. Bear with me on this one, I promise it's going somewhere.
People & Happiness
No doubt, many of us have had a less than stellar 2008. In fact, I'm pretty sure that most of us want the year 2009 to be a LOT better than the year which just left us a few days ago. I think so many of us have made resolutions to find/be/maintain our happiness, but then in the blink of an eye, it all goes wrong.
So why does this happen? Why do we resolve to seek happiness in the New Year and then lose sight if that goal?
Well, to be honest with you- it's because of the people and events you have going on in your life at that time.
Sometimes, just when you're seeking your happiness the most, there's always going to be someone out there who literally just won't/can't stand to see you happy. In spite of this though, we as a people need to learn the subtle art of "shake 'em off".
Why?
Because NOBODY is ever going to care more for or about your happiness than YOU. For everyone who made a resolution this year saying "I want to be happy', or "I'm going to find my happiness', then get out there and make it what it is. We all fall victim to it, because sometimes- family and friends hate on your happiness more than people you don't know.
A lot of us have forgotten that true happiness starts from within our own heart and soul. So when it comes down to it, make everything you do a celebration. Live your life. Laugh out loud. Take this brand new year and make the best of it. When you find your happiness, there are going to be scores of people who are probably going to hate on you for always having a smile on your face. Know what to do about that?
Just look at those hating on you, and don't pity them. Instead, bestow upon them a wish for them to learn how to have some happiness for themselves too!
Happiness is infectious, just like smiling is contagious. Spread them both as much as you can in this New Year. Give your thanks to whoever you pray to. Live your life and don't be bothered about those who say things against you. Share your happiness with those who are less than happy. Resolve to make this year, 2009- YOUR YEAR.
In the end, you might just be suprised about all the things you haven't had time to worry about!
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That's great encouragement, many of us spend our lives hating back the people who hate us instead of lending a helping hand to them or giving them a helping hand.
ReplyDeleteI'm the type of person who loves to smile and I get a lot of strange looks from strangers. I guess people are used to seeing happy people so much these days.
ReplyDeleteYou are right J.E.! I choose to be happy most of the time. Of course, there are times when I am so alone that I am sad but I usually pick myself up and go out to the stores or to visit friends or family. There is no room for self pity in my life because I want to be happy. If I find a lady, so be it. If I don't, so be it. I'll still be happy whatever I do. Good article!
ReplyDeleteI hear you! You have to have happiness in yourself before you can every try to get or give it to others. My kids make me happy every day and I try to make their lives as happy as possible too. Good blog post!
ReplyDeletejeanluke
I agree, happiness begins within ourselves. No one else can really make you happy, unless you are already happy inside.
ReplyDeleteYou're totally right. My happiness depends upon me. That's why I've started looking for someone special to me. I want a happy life and for me that means a family. I want a family just like the traditional families that everyone sees on TV. With a wife and kids and a dog and maybe a cat. I have started looking by registering here and am looking forward to meeting some nice ladies.
ReplyDeleteDustin Gregory
Great subject and reminder. You have to start with yourself and work on your own happiness before you can expect to make others happy or expect others to be able to make you happy. Once you accept that and make it your focus you can begin to uncover what happiness really is!
ReplyDeleteI think this year has rocked many people off their chairs to a point. I have been busy with my own stuff and I understand trying to work with your readers with blog updates but sometimes other things have to run a course first. Good luck with the new lady friend too.
ReplyDeleteGood post! This is a great reminder for me. In order to be happy you have to think happy. I choose to be happy even though I could be a grump most of the time. My child depends on me and my little precious deserves a mama who is happy and spirited and I think I do well at that most of the time!
ReplyDeleteTinaM
I think too many people think that another person will make them happy. You have to start on yourself first. I watch a lot of Oprah. LOL
ReplyDeleteJessEka is right here, no one can help others until they are able to first help themselves. This year has been swamped for many but we are all getting there and with spring break coming up I am loving the idea of a little down time myself.
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